How to Manage Fear

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Summary: Fear can hold us back from doing the things we really want to do. Our expert is here to teach you how to manage your fear in this free self help video clip.

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Deborah McMahon Deborah McMahon is a psychotherapist and author of The Book of Universal Knowledge. She is also a licensed marriage, family and child counselor, as well as a ... read more

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How to Manage Fear

Alright so we're talking about letting go of our fear and you mentioned that you were " I was terrified", terrified, that you didn't want to come on this video series. What can people do? What are real techniques and tools that you can give them? Well, we are one, we are one and there's a universal principle and I can only just share with you what happened to me. And that is when I was tossing and turning I thought of a million excuses I could make up to cancel this. I mean everything I could think of. I was frozen in fear. I felt that every part of my body ached. It was a physical manifestation. I was terrified and what I did is I just laid down and let myself be miserable. I mean, I probably laid there for about an hour and really I kept asking myself what am I really afraid of. What is really scaring me and I had to really work with myself and be and allow myself to cry, and allow myself to stomp around the house And go into the bathroom and wash myself a few times and ask myself why am I freaking out about this? Cause fear grips you that is why they use the word grip. You?re like wow this is scary, and sometimes we don't even know why were scary. So it isn't as easy as just let it go lalala it is not that easy. It can take years to work through this stuff. But the more you stay accepted, know what's there and look at what's really going on. What am I really afraid of here because it's usually hidden and if you can dig down to what's really hidden. Really, yes, for me what's scary for me about this book is that is didn't come from me, it doesn't feel like it. It came through me. And when I was on a TV show many years ago right after I first wrote the book somebody he said to me "oh, so this came from God to you", and really like conversations with God wasn't out yet. People were not open to the fact that there's a consciousness you can just step into and just focus on. So my fear is really coming from that experience. That oh what if that happens again? What if people think you?re crazy that you had this book come to you? You know it's a lot easier to say I wrote this book I spent twenty five years writing this book that would be easy. To say it came to me in two days was not easy. There's a possibility of rejection for me and that was what my fear was rejection or judgment. I think a lot of fear comes from that rejection and judgment and that's why is important to love yourself and to say you know what I'm going to do it anyway. I'm going to and sometimes you may drive halfway to the party and turn around and go back but at least you got half way there. You know I do the marathon every year. I've done 19 LA marathons and for about two weeks before the marathon I tell everybody I'm terrified. It's 26.2 miles, it's a long way and a lot of people don't make it to the starting line. I say once you cross the starting line at the marathon your half way there. Cause what happens before you have to step over that starting line is horrific. It's so huge. You figure out so many ways to psyche yourself out, so stepping past it. You know the journey doesn't begin starting at the starting line, it's getting there. Once you get to the party your halfway there even if you walk in for five minutes and walk out. You showed up and showing up is the way to get the life you want. And you know what this is with everything from taking a class, going out on a date, or even asking somebody out on a date, attempting to start a business. But the truth is when one of us steps us, we all step up and as each of us rises up our vibration it helps to raise everybody else. That's true. You know it's wonderful to be a part of the solution and ask for support. You know if you open your heart and ask someone, you know I'm afraid to go by myself will you go with me? Yeah, yeah, that's good, that's great. So support is a good way to deal with fear. Good point, excellent.

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