How to Start a Conversation with a Girl

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Hi, I'm Alex MacRae, a social dynamics instructor, on behalf of expertvillage.com I'll be talking today on the topic of picking up women in bars and clubs. I'd like to say a few words about topics of conversation that work well in bars and clubs. Always remember the golden rule of bars and clubs is that people are out to have a good time, be social, and meet people who are of equal or higher energy than them, that give them energy in the interactions. A few topics of conversation that work very well are things like gossip and current events. If there's a big movie that just came out that half the people in the bar or club want to talk about that or would be willing to. If there's a celebrity that recently got arrested for something crazy, talk about that. A few other things you can talk about are big stories from your own life that you remember that we're amazing. You can say, Oh my gosh one time I was skinny dipping and then this shark came by and I don't know why there was a shark in a fresh water lake and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. A lot of the time if you are in the right mood and you're relating to people well, you can fib a little in your stories and people will understand you're fibbing for the sake of entertainment. In other words, of course there was never actually a shark in a fresh water lake, but if I'm fibbing with people, if we're both having a good time and if we're both trading fun stories, then I can get away with saying something like that and it's fun, flirty, and exciting. A few things to never talk about in bars and clubs are pretty simple, politics, religion and family. You can bet that with politics and religion you'll meet someone in the group that will have a different view with you or that just won't want to about it at that moment. And as far as family goes, families are generally not the type of people that go to bars and clubs. They're not family environments. People sometimes are there to escape their families or they might have negative experiences with their families. So remember, keep things fun, light, and exciting. Talk about gossip, current affairs, things that are fun that you just heard in the news, exciting bits of commentary that you just heard and also talk about yourself. Fun exciting things that maybe happened last week, maybe happened a year ago but you can still relate to here and now. Thanks for listening.

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